It is in many ways easy to be a part time submissive - one that lives her own life and sees her Dominant once in a while.   It may be emotionally taxing to be away from her 'guidance' but it's physically easier in that her behaviors while away from her Dominant are not observed and therefore there is almost "time off." More importantly, the time together can be more physically intense in the sense that she can display her submissive behaviors with more energy because she doesn't have to do it 24/7.  

In a 24/7 lifestyle one must make compromises because it's neither easy nor productive to keep the energy level so high all the time.  

Editor's note: There is a misunderstanding among many people in the D/s community that the term '24/7' means being on-line in a BDSM chat room all the time. This is not the case.  

In fact, the 24/7 lifestyle actually tends to 'tone down' the physical aspects of a D/s relationship to the point where a casual observer may see them as they would any other traditional couple and even possible for the couple to lose from time to time, some of those D/s aspects of their relationship.   The obvious solution is to mix a sub-set of behaviors with certain rules of dress that can, if done properly, serve as a continual reminder to both participants without undue inconvenience.  

With that, Your Pig gives you a workable set of rules and behaviors that can be applied long term to a D/s relationship that have proven to yield consistent and positive results.   These rules take into account several principles that must first be understood:

1.   We are never ashamed or embarrased by our lives or actions.
2.   We are mindful that not everyone does or would understand.
3.   We have a right to expect people to accept our choices.
4.   We have NO RIGHT to shove our choices in other people's faces.
5.   We have a responsibility to NOT make others uncomfortable.

With that, my rules are as follows:

The submissive follows all directions of the Dominant at all times, without hesitation or question.  

She addresses him as 'Master' at all possible times and uses NO other term for him except when doing so might make people around her uncomfortable.   In those instances, she does her best to get his attention without any formal address, using his first name only as a last resort.  

Her clothing is a dress or skirt and blouse, moderate heels (minimum 3 inches) unless a situation specifically requires a difference.   Pants, shorts, jeans, slacks and panties are controlled items that she must specifically ask and be given permission to wear and such permission is granted only when the occassion demands it.   Only a single layer of fabric may cover the nipples.   If she is to wear a bra under her blouse, the bra must leave the nipples exposed.   This is accomplished by means of shelf bras from companies such as manufactured by Inchant ( www.inchant.com ) that offer proper fit and support rather than by 'trashy' bras from cheap lingerie stores.  

When walking, the submissive walks beside the Dominant, mostly because he likes feeling her there and likes to hold her hand, but in any instance where single file is required, she waits for him and then walks behind him, NEVER in front.  

When the submissive or Dominant meet each other after an absence of more than 30 minutes, she assumes some position that signifies recognition.   For example, if they are alone or in knowlegeable company, she will stop what she is doing and kneel.   In mixed company, if she is standing, she will sit.   If sitting, she will stand.   In every situation, there is at least ONE behavior that signifies her commitment yet doesn't upset or care the church-folk.  

At home there is perhaps one or more pieces of furniture, such as the livingroom couch, upon which she is not permitted unless by invitation and is not allowed to ask permission.   With practice and commitment, she learns to do this even at a friend's house or even her parent's house, but rather to pick a comfortable sitting (not kneeling) position on the floor, leaning her back on the base of the couch.   As just about every person has at one time or another, sat or lain on the livingroom floor for a discussion, watching TV, etc.   this CAN be accomplsihed without drawing undue attention.  

This brings us to the COLLAR Pictures

She wears her collar and cuffs 24/7 except in the shower or pool, no collar in bed replaced by the Dominant with a gold chain and padlock around her neck connecting her to the bed.   This chain does contain a safety link in case of emergency, but the submissive is told that if that link ever breaks, she'd better immediately set the house afire.   lol
This means the grocery store, out to dinner, with friends, and all the normal day to day activites, including going to work.   Many people ask if these cause undue attention in public and the answer is ....   no.   It is assumed that 25% of people don't notice, 25% of people don't care, 25% of people are curious but don't ask, 10% of people know and 15% of people .....   well, there's no understanding 15% of any sample (keep in mind that 10% of people think Elvis is still alive and 8% think he'll get a letter if they mail it to him.)

The most common comment is "Wow, I like your necklace" and nothing more, to which the only response is "thank you." Sometimes the response is "I like your collar" to which the response is the same, and once in a great while she will get "Is that a dog collar?" to which the response may simply be "no, it's just jewlery" .....   but every once in a while, depending on a great number of factors, she leans close in, smiles and evil smile, and says "woof!" and then straigthens up again.  

Beyond these rules, which seem complex at first but become second nature more quickly than might be imagined, she laughs, butts into conversations, enjoys her life, has all the fun you'd expect a person to have and ..   with practice ...   learns to take comfort from having a special 'place' and to be in her element when she's in her place.