He's tall. I'm not sure exactly how tall because I'm not good at guessing things like that, but he's over 6 feet. He has dark hair. He has a rugged face - not weathered or haggard looking, just not a refined, sissy face. He has big hands and strong arms. We didn't talk about it, but I can tell things. His hands are clean and well manicured, but not too well manicured. You can tell that he works with his brains and not his brawn but you can also see that he's repaired a car or two in his day, can hammer a nail or fix a washing machine if he needs to.
You can tell from general look that he keeps in shape. Not a chisled, sculpted look - this guy doesn't work out every day and then admire his bod in a mirror. No he'd rather look around than at himself. You can tell that he does it by eating mostly right, getting good excercise in all his normal daily activities. This is probably because he always has something better to do than stare at himself. He's always doing something. Or planning something. It struck me that this guy always has some objective that he's working toward.
He's got a great sense of humor, too. He can laugh at the world and maybe even more importantly, at himself. He doesn't take things too seriously unless he has to. He can live and let live, but (although he might never tell you this), seeing someone mistreating a puppy can break his heart and almost bring him to tears. He hates it when things like that happen, because when it does, he feels obligated to act - he knows that when you have knowledge of evil, it comes with the responsbility to act.
He's fearless, but not to the point of being reckless. He'll do battle with a spider the size of a Buick and he's willing to die to protect what he's responsibile for ... but he's smart enough to not pick battles he can't win. He got to where he is in life by making smart choices.
He lives in a house not too far from you. It's a nice place and he keeps it up. Generally, he doesn't like doing chores and yes, he thinks that's a submissive's place, but he also knows that it doesn't kill a man to take the dishes to the kitchen, either.
You don't see his power in any overt way ... you just notice that whatever "it" is ... he has it. He has the cool intent eyes of a predator and once you look at them ... you know in your heart that he has the power to back up that look.
And if that's not enough ..... he's looking for a submissive!
The problem is .... he's not looking for YOU!
o The woman he's looking for isn't a 'subbie' She probably doesn't even know that she's a submissive.
o He's not looking for a woman that wants to give her submission to anyone. When he finds the woman he's looking for, his power will simply be greater than hers.... and he'll lead where she is to follow.
o He's not looking for a woman that advertises on AOL about all the things HE will be when she finds him. He MIGHT look at a profile that tells people what she has to offer, but never what she is demanding that he possess.
o But he rarely spends enough time on-line to pay attention to things like that, anyway and he NEVER goes into chat room ... he has something better to do. Always.
o He doesn't want to fix you, either. He knows that if you're broken, you need a therapist, not a Dominant.
o He doesn't want to name you, or tell you to lose weight or give you that extra bit of 'direction' that you think you need to be whole. He knows that if you don't know your own name, or aren't willing to get in better shape because YOU know it's the thing to do ... then you're not motivated enough to keep up with him.
o He can spot a needy person from 10 miles away and he's learned that needy people can never GET enough to stop being needy.
o He doesn't want to talk about your submission, either. He wants to know what you think about the situation in the Middle East and your opinion of Peter Arnett
o He wonders how the Great Pyramid as Geza really DID get built, and whether you think that the traditional political parties have really lost touch with the middle class and what you think will happen in the next General Election.
o He want's a woman that's had the good sense, taste and style to keep on good terms with her ex husband.
o When he even HEARS that you've had occasion to know how to get a restraining order, he's going to politely and elegantly excuse himself and drive away.
o He knows that you also got where you are in life by making the choices you made.
o He expects you to not only have a job .. but a job you like. Or at least be chasing a job that you like. If you don't HAVE a job, or a car .... that tells him all about you than he cares to know.
He's not willing to settle. So perhaps you should be.